She is too fat.

He doesn’t have a good enough job?

She’s not white.

He’s not Jewish.

Despite what you may have learned from the school of Hollywood, love does not always have to come to you in the most sexiest package.

• Six pak abs

• Small waist lines

• Huge bust lines

Are all good to have in a mate. A sexy body can easily get your mojo going but thats not where the beauty of love lies.

Because even physical beauty can get boring.

Need some proof?

Check out any of the latest celebrity gossip columns and you will find out who is the latest sexy diva to get dumped.

Even the most beautiful people in Hollywood will and do get played and by broke Bustas too.

Just take a peek into the lives of people like:

• Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston.

• Brittany Spears

• Terrell Owens even though he is considered a great champion, with body to die for, he tried to kill himself just the other day.

So really what does having it all really mean?

Does it mean that you are safe from ridicule from others and self destruction, look at the list above again then you tell me if they where saved.

Why does your girlfriend have to be slim? Your seeing a nice plus sized woman now but you don’t want to commit to her because shes a little plump, thats not right.

What does your vanity stand for?

Love is so powerful that it can transform the ugly into a thing of beauty. You should have faith that that truism will work for you too.

Beauty and the Beast is the story that already taught the world that.

The evidence is abundantly clear.

You should never sabotage your chances at true love because of conceited vanity.

People who still think along those lines, can be easily be accused of having the enlightenment of someone who lived in the 18th century, when the Beauty and the Beast was written.

Here are 5 signs that indicate that your vanity maybe keeping you lonely

1. You have too many do’s, don’t s and physical traits that you want your ideal partner to have.
2. You look for petty reasons to get into a hurtful arguments.
3. You are always looking for outside approval of others about your potential long term mate.
4. You classify your lover as just a “friend”.
5. You make dates then at the last minute, you cancel or don’t follow through.

Listen folks…

If you have someone in your life who can manage to keep a profound interest in you despite the fact that you are acting like an arrogant jack ass then you can consider yourself one of the lucky ones.

Because what usually happens to those of us who have become experts in our own vain imagination is that we end up becoming, old, cold and alone.

Remember that true happiness comes from one thing–spiritual transcendence and that is something that even your closest lover or friend cannot give you– self actualization is something you reach through positive relationships with others, no matter what they have or look like..

Maslow has already proved this to us with his hierarchy of needs.

Your ideal mate my not be look like Megan Good, Beyonce or Brad Pitt 10 years ago but they can provide the key ingredients you need that can help you most one step higher on the pyramid of life.

Besides, if you didn’t have some type of love or attraction to the people to come around you and want to be your “friend” then they would not come around you–it that simple.

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Having family members in your corner even when you are at your bottom-most worst can make your transition from addict to recovery much easier on you and everybody else involved.

So don’t be too ashamed of yourself and your drug habit that you actively hide your destructive habits from your closest family members, friends and loved ones.

10 Reasons You Should Not Be Afraid Of Exposing Your Drug Habit.

1. Your family will feel closer to you and love you more for freely exposing the truth about your dark side.
2. You will get free drug spending money from your supportive family members because they will think that it will prevent you from stealing or breaking the law.
3. You will get to do drugs in the comfort of your home.
4. You will meet less sickos getting high at home.
5. You will have a more pleasant high experience.
6. You will be more aware of how your habit is affecting your family because they will be able to express their feelings to you much easier.
7. You won’t have to pretend you can exactly who you are and still get away with it.
8. Its harder to quit narcotic use without the support of family.
9. Some of your family members will come together in order to figure out a way to help you and family togetherness is almost always good.
10. Its just the right thing to do.

I hope that your not too upset with me because of that list, I know that I took a very light hearted approach towards the very serious problem of drug abuse and it affect on families but guess what?

That light hearted tone was intended to create an impression in you.

I want you to realize that you can take any topic no matter how dreaded and turn it into a topic ready for discussion or conversation.

Drug abuse is a very real problem that attacks the homes of innocent and decent family people all over the world.

So don’t you think that if it happens to reach your neck of the woods that you and your family should be armed and ready to battle with it?

You and your family should be ready to tackle a potential drug problem in the most beneficial and effective way.

One of the first things that you must learn in order to be ready and prepared to deal with a drug demon is accept in yourself that no topic is conversational taboo.

Anything and everything can be discussed in a family setting so that when problem strikes, you and the family can come together as a group to discuss and develop, values and strategies for tackling a live problem within your household without the words spoken being looked at like a weapon used to cause people feelings of animosity.

Life is too short and while family issues are important they should not be looked upon so seriously that it causes family your members to want to hide who they really are in order to a please the delicate sensitivities of the leaders in your family.

If you or a family member has a substance abuse problem don’t be afraid to show it. Face the ugly truth head on, don’t bury your head in the sand and you and your family will have a much easier time overcoming it as an obstacle.

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As we are getting closer to summer, many are beginning to think about a family vacation this year. However, with the rising cost of gas, food and just living day to day, this could possibly prevent some families from taking a trip that could provide the relaxation they desperately need. But this doesn’t have to be the case. Let me give you some helpful hints that can allow you to take the trip you desire, without breaking your bank.

Consider renting a house or condo instead of staying in a hotel. A rental provides you with a complete kitchen and eating area, allowing you to purchase and prepare your own food. Not having to eat at restaurants for every meal can really cut-down on the cost of your trip.

It’s very important to look for flights, hotels and car rentals on several websites to find the best deal. Prices can vary website to website, so doing your homework will pay off. Check out the packages the different websites offer for booking flights, hotels and/or car rentals together, but also check the prices separately. A package deal may or may not be cheaper.

If you have a specific destination in mind, begin looking and planning well in advance to find the best deals. Find out when the non-peak time is to your destination and travel then. You can often find lodging and activities at a reduced cost.

If your destination is flexible, however, consider looking on-line for last minute travel deals that different sites offer, such as expedia.com. Quite often they have specials at a greatly reduced rate for the following week or two.

If you have kids, always look for kids’ deals. Choose restaurants where kids can eat for free and hotels where they can stay for free. Some airlines also offer deals for students, such as orbitz.com. Be sure to ask about senior citizen discounts if applicable.

Begin planning now. This will allow you to be ready for your trip and enjoy your vacation, knowing that you have already found the best deals available.

Gina Clark writes on travel and financial issues. Visit http://vacationtipsforabudget.blogspot.com to learn additional travel tips for a budget.

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But as we all know, even love making can get a little repetitive and stale if you, don’t take measures to add the spice.

One surefire way you can add the heat back into your relationship is to engage in public displays of touch and affection.

I know your imagination is already starting to run wild…

But I am not telling you to freak out when you go outside.

I don’t want you to get a ticket or a get your ass thrown in jail for committing a lewd acts of indecency.

No.

I am just merely suggesting that, on a warm summer’s day or even on a cold day, it doesn’t matter, you and you lover can do something that is almost guaranteed to pep up your love life.

Think about, instead of sitting in your apartment watching t.v. on your ass,

you and the person you make love with can take a walk, jump on the train or jump in your car and go to places like:

• Bryant Park in Mid Town New York City located in the back of the New York Public Library
• Columbia University Terrace where you can actually see New York City’s famous Manhattan skyline

• Brooklyn Botanical Gardens
• The top of the Empire State Building
• The Ice Skating Rink and Rockefeller Center
• New York City’s Waterways–which has a nice view of the Statue of Liberty

These places are not just for tourists.

And when you go to these places, romantic inspiration will take over you; you kiss, you touch, and you will feel better about relationship and whats even better is that the people who see you being romantic won’t mind.

New York City is filled with romantically thrilling dark coves and “secret crevices” that you can go to, to fondle your lover.

Use your imagination and enjoy the city that you live in.

A simple kiss in the right setting can rekindle a spark in your love life because it can give you that trill and excitement of anticipated danger you need to feel good again;

certain places in the city can also can be private enough so that you’d be willing to a take the devil’s chance to get in some quick outside nookie or to do a little bit of finger touching.

It all depends on what you choose to do.

But either way you do it, you are going to have fun in some way, so why not?

So when you feel bored don’t forget that you can always go outside to get your “kiss on”.

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I already know that when it comes to fashion and looking good we New York women know how to do that well.

We got access to lots of clothes, we live in the fashion capital of the world, we got it going on….

but I notice that when it comes to wearing makeup we need a little work, we got to stop with the 99cents lipsticks and the heavy face powders.

So here’s a rundown of 4 essential beauty tips for Spring/Summer 2008.

1. Smoky Eyes - Seduction

Heavily mascaraed eyes, with lots of liner and very dark, smokey eyeshadow brings all the attention to the eyes. That look is balanced well with naturally rosy lips and pale cheeks to avoid looking sluty.

2. Strong Brows

Go to the Koreans and get your eye brows done, every 2 weeks. Make up looks it best on a “tailored”, well prepped face.

3. Bright Red Lips

When you want to look like a vixen, hot red lip stick is the way to go. But you have to wear this towards to the evening and if you are wearing the crimson red look, that means that you have to tone down the other make up, so stay away from heavy mascaras and dark eye make up when wearing this look.

4. Barely There Makeup - Natural

I know you know about mineral make up, well this is the look you got rock now, natural make up thats going to make your skin look young and healthy is the way to go.

Yes, you use liner, mascara, lipstick, blusher and eyeshadow and all of your favorite things but you got to tone it down and make different color choices.

Pick natural skin tones for your base colors, brownish pink shades for lips and cheeks, sand, or browns slightly darker than your natural skintone for your eyeshadow and brown mascara and liner for that naturally pretty look.

Follow these simple little tips and you are going to look like a darling this spring/summer year.

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And I know that you want to be one of them too; so you know what that means…, you gotta start shaping up.

Here are 10 tips you can use to get your summer shape up regimen started.

1. Focus daily on what you want to look like.

2. Drink Water! Water is not only a great thirst quencher; it will flush toxins from your body and, keep your skin moist which will give a natural glow!

3. Exercise - Try the hula hoop for 10 minuets twice a day.

4. Eat fruits and vegetables that are high in water content. For example, cucumbers, watermelon, dark green leafy vegetables and grapefruit.

5. Take Supplements

6. Seasonal Detox

7. Get Outside - Yes I know in some parts of the country it is cold but, a 30 minuet walk in the winter sun and fresh air will do wonders not just for your legs, but for your mind as well.

8. Sexercise - What better way to work up a sweat?

9. Eat Chocolate - Preferably dark organic chocolate.

10. Limit alcohol and caffeine intake.

These tips will without question put you on the path to feeling great both physically and mentally.

Taking the time to be healthy and fit should not feel like a chore. Try new activities to keep from getting into a rut.

There are a plethora of indoor (if you live in a cold climate) sports to try out. Investigate what your town has to offer. Your heart and body will be glad that you did.

If you enjoyed this article then I will like to invite you to find out more about the author please visit her website at http://sensualbloomliving.typepad.com

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All plus size women should really consider buying their clothing online because you can enjoy many choices available, from the latest fashions to hard to find clothing items at discounted rates.

You can avoid the hassle of shopping at a mall by shopping from your computer in the convenience of your own home, and you can spend the time you would have been shopping relaxing with your family and friends.

For a formal engagement, choose from the latest colors and styles online.

Finding the perfect outfit to complement your body can be overwhelming. There are so many choices including colors, fabrics, styles and contouring.

Here are a few simple rules to make it easier.

• Don’t pay attention to what your friends think of the clothes you try on. You are the one who is going to have to wear them.
• Listen to your friends, but make your decision based on what you like and how you think you look in it. If you don’t think you look good, you won’t feel good about yourself while wearing it.

Choose shoes with a 1″ heel if you feel comfortable wearing heels. They will make you appear taller and slimmer.

Get your bra refitted every few years, or more often if you have gained or lost weight. Make sure your bras fit comfortably, and anything you wear will look better. Make sure your underwear fits well too. Underwear that is too loose or too tight can cause undesirable lines.

Select clothing styles, colors and fabrics that flatter your body and build your wardrobe around them. A boatneck top can be used to accentuate the bustline or contour the waist. However, if you have wide shoulders, this is a style you should avoid.

Accessories should be chosen to fit with the clothing but not match so well that they blend in. Accessories should complement the outfit and make it seem more complete.

Buying clothes that resemble clothes you already have can help you avoid buying something that you won’t like once you get it home.

You can create a lasting impression by mixing and matching the fabrics in your outfit while keeping the color the same. Avoid baggy clothing and clothing that clings. These will not flatter your figure.

Keep an eye out for sales and clearances but remember that these items were not sold for a reason. Try to create a timeless and practical look rather than chasing the latest fad.

If you prefer to buy your clothes in the store to make sure they fit properly, try picking them out online first by browsing the store’s website, then print out pictures of the items you want and find the items you’ve selected.

Or place your order online to get fast and convenient delivery right to your door. Check prices at different stores to make sure you are getting a good value for your money. Many stores that have similar styles have very different prices.

For more great info on plus size women’s clothing visit www.findplussizewomensclothes.com a website offering tips, advice and resources on topics such as finding the perfect plus size swimsuit, plus size lingerie and also where to find great looking plus size evening dresses plus so much more.

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Just like us women, men can also be great fakers and they can pretend that they are all in to you when in fact they are not.

Despite to what you have been led to believe men are not only attracted to the sexiest woman in the room.

Men also like and pursue women that have a personality that they can intimately identify with.

Have you ever noticed a ugly, bad shaped women walking around with a fine ass man on their arms?

I am sure you have, and the reason why some of these type of relationships happen is because the woman smart enough not to rely on her looks alone to snap up the man of their dreams.

These women have figured out other ways to lure men in.

How do you think that these “ugly” women figure out how to reel in fine ass men? The trick that they use the most is listening.

They listen to what men say they need and they find a way to offer it.

Therefore, if you want to snag your own fine ass man the first step to use in getting him to notice you is to be a good listener.

Listening in the seductive process involves more that using your ears because you also have to listen with your eyes.

Listening is the process of putting your minds energy in a state of receiving. In the listening state you become like a radio antennae that is able to pick up on the delicate cues that men give off when they are relating to you.

The best way to listen to a man that is the object of your desire is to stay quiet at first and watch him when he is talking.

When he is talking look at him in his eyes. Smile at him when he notices you and if its appropriate give a little giggle and pretend that you are embarrassed that he knows you have been “staring”. By doing this you are making the conversation he is having with your sort of personal.

Continue to watch and only engage in the conversation from time to time. By doing this you will come off as an articulate and intelligent woman who is not obsessed with talking about herself.

But don’t give him too much attention, only stay engaged enough to send the clear signal that you like what he is all about.

When you feel that he has picked up on your energy then thats your cue to tone it down a bit.

The way you tone down your attentions is by looking at something or someone else. Divert your attentions to another man in the room. If thats not feasible turn and talk to one of your girlfriends but if all else fails jump on your cell phone and make an important phone call.

When he notices that you are not paying attention to him like your were doing before if he likes you then his ego will not be able to stand it and he will begin to pursue you.

If he’s interested in you, you can expect him to seek you out. He might move closer to where you are standing or he might even ask you a direct question, something like: “How have you been enjoying yourself?”

If he gets the feeling that you like him and you are not paying him any attention anymore. He is going to find any excuse to engage you more.

When he does this, flirt with him a little bit, touch him softly on his hands, speak in a girly, sexy voice and giggle. Men love to think that they can make a woman laugh.

At this point you will have him in the palm of your hands. He will be yours, ready and willing to play, ready and willing to fuck(be careful now) and this is the time when you begin to use your sexual feminine wiles to make him more interested in you.

If you have reached this point, you should feel confident because you will probably be the only lady in the room with the upper hand of having shared a personal moment with him earlier.

So don’t think getting a man is all about how you look because if you follow these tips, that flat stomached shapely girl with the dress up to her ass will not have a chance. No one will be able to beat you at getting this man because you have been listening to his cues for a while and you have gotten a chance to know a couple of things about him that the other woman in the room are not aware of.

Therefore you will be able to flirt with him on a level that your competion will not be able to.

Fact: Men will spend more time pursuing a woman that he thinks he can get than a fine ass woman that is not giving him the time of the day.

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